Great leaders understand that the best way to impact people, is to connect with them on a deeper level. It’s this subtle art of
influencing them which ultimately leads people to your desired objectives, as opposed to telling them what to do. To influence your employees, you'll need to invest time in fostering relationships with them. You need to work selflessly for your people, and add genuine value to those around you.
Before you can influence anyone, people will need to be able to relate to you. You need to be authentic, personable and respectful to others. Think of the most influential people in your own life — what common characteristics did they display? I'd bet you trusted those people and respected them highly. Influential leaders mightn't always tell you what you want to hear, but they'll certainly communicate with you in an honest and open way for your own benefit. They care, and that's how they connect with you.
To become an influential leader, start by taking an active interest in the lives of those around you. Show your staff that that you genuinely have their best interests at heart by learning about their personal lives, hobbies, career goals and ambitions.
How was their weekend?
How did their daughter's music recital go?
How is their ill grandmother feeling now?
Get to know your people and what's happening in their lives, and show them your human side. Be authentic, and care about them. It's important.
As a manager your primary objective is to establish the right culture. Your corporate culture will determine your success, and should look to cultivate an environment where your staff are all in. You want them to be committed to working hard, driven to work selflessly for one another, and ready to have fun. You want your employees to be open to feedback, to take responsibility for their decisions and to drive innovation for you to see a competitive advantage in your business - all of that comes down to influencing others so you can get people on the same page.
There are different techniques you can use to lead or influence your staff to a desired outcome, in ways that generate their unwavering buy-in . That's an article for another time, but please let me know in the comments if learning those strategies would be of benefit to you.
For now, your take-home point to remember is that building rapport with people is the key. Investing in relationships isn't always easy, but it's essential if you wish to become an influential leader. Take the time to get to know your people, because it will shape everything that you do within your management framework.